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How Codependent Love Addicts Can Make A Change

By Shawn Hunter


You will run into a lot of problems should you have certain addiction problems relating to love. Codependent love addicts have a hard time on a daily basis because there are many classic characteristics that will set them back. Some people go through their whole life coping in this way. However, it will definitely improve the quality of life by seeking professional help.

Someone who has this disorder will be obsessed about relationships and is continuously thinking and fantasizing about a partner or something related. It is almost an obsessive compulsive way of thinking, which one has a lot of trouble with. This affects your personal and professional life.

With basic codependency, one has problem with self esteem. It is difficult to love oneself. Boundaries are always a problems. One may find it difficult to protect against this. People who are diagnose with this have issues with self-care. They won't express themselves very well in terms of what is real.

When they are not with someone, they will go into withdrawal mode. They become lonely and depressed. There are people who are more severely affected than others and they will battle with that empty feeling a lot of the time. They may even feel suicidal at time because of this addiction that they face. When they are in a relationship, they feel as though they are on a high. If they don't have this, they may want to be comforted with drugs or food.

A lot of time is spent on these relationships, thinking obsessively about the partner or about future relationships. One will often do everything for the partner and it is never an equal based relationship which is not healthy. This kind of person needs to be taken care of, but it is very often unrealistic. Of course, this goes back to the childhood when parents or caregivers were not interested in the children and this made them feel unloved. This is the price theat they have to pay.

Someone who is a love addict as well will try and blend in, but that fear will always be there. They will be afraid of the intimacy, but will also fear abandonment. Below they will be struggling, but this does not show on the outside. They appear to be just like anyone else and able to function like any other human being. This is more like an obsessive compulsive sort of behaviour.

A love addict will go though a stage or withdrawal should they not be in a relationship. However, this is not healthy since they battle to connect or bond with anyone. They were not able to do this as a child either and this has not since changed in anyway. They were neglected during this time and this is where the fear creeps in. It adds to the low self-esteem that they carry around with them.

A love addict does not see their immature behavior and how offensive it can be to others. It is only when someone points this out and becomes supportive that one may start to see the light. Therapy can change how one sees relationships and this can change your whole life around.




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